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July 2026
1619: The Lingering Imprint Returns This Fall – Ideas Welcome 07/04/2026
Evolution of Holidays: What Are We Doing for Thanksgiving This Year? 07/01/2026
A Message From The President: Bridget Brewster 07/01/2026
A New Year, A New Board of Directors 07/01/2026
Gertrude Stein and the Birth of Modernism: A Family Connection 07/01/2026
Home Sweet Home...No Moving Required 07/01/2026
How Did You Get Here? 07/01/2026
Scams, Frauds, AI…Oh No, Not Again 07/01/2026
Two's Company! 07/01/2026
Village Magic 07/01/2026
June 2026
Home Sweet Home...No Moving Required Designing Spaces for Safe and Secure Living 06/09/2026
Ability Resource Fair - A.R.F.! 06/01/2026
Building Community: The Village Engagement Team Welcomes New Villagers 06/01/2026
Goals, Priorities and Tasks. Oh, My! 06/01/2026
Jabber-Walkies 06/01/2026
LGBTQ+ Bars: A Book-talk 06/01/2026
Ladies Who Lunch 06/01/2026
President’s Message 06/01/2026
May 2026
What Are "Teams"? 05/24/2026
What Does Board Oversight Mean? 05/19/2026
April 2026
Aging in Harmony: Pasadena Village and Encore Creativity 04/29/2026
Altadena’s Coyote Comeback 04/29/2026
Catch it Before it's Gone! 04/29/2026
In Sickness and in Health: Interview with a Caregiver 04/29/2026
Legacy Project 04/29/2026
Not Too Old To Get Carded 04/29/2026
President's Message 04/29/2026
Stuck in Milwaukee - Airplane Travel 2026 04/29/2026
The Art Journaling Workshop 04/29/2026
Think You're Losing Your Mind? 04/29/2026
Visiting The Getty 04/29/2026
March 2026
My Home For Now 03/30/2026
My Home for Now 03/30/2026
Black History Month: Poetry Reading Brings Community Together 03/26/2026
Do I Really Need a Will and/or a Trust? 03/26/2026
Everybody Needs a Blankie 03/26/2026
Fire Recovery Grants – Giving Back to the Community 03/26/2026
Kickoff: Prepared 50+ Emergency Preparedness 03/26/2026
President’s Message: Volunteering to Build Community 03/26/2026
The Birth of an Archive for Pasadena Village 03/26/2026
Too Smart to be Scammed? 03/26/2026
“I DIDN’T KNOW THAT!” A Refresher Course 03/26/2026
Across the Waiting Room 03/11/2026
February 2026
Refresh and Refocus 1619: Continuing the Dialogue 02/28/2026
Status - February 28, 2026 02/28/2026
AI Presentation 02/26/2026
Exploring the “Cheech” 02/26/2026
Mary Mejia is Here to Make a Difference 02/26/2026
One Year On 02/26/2026
President’s Message – March 2026 02/26/2026
Support Groups: Who, What, When, Where, and Why? 02/26/2026
Volunteering, Belonging, and the Power of Connection 02/21/2026
January 2026
BEACONS OF HOPE - The Dump Trucks of the Eaton Fire 01/29/2026
Exploring the Hidden Trails Together: The Pasadena Village Hiking Group 01/28/2026
Five Years of Transformative Leadership at Pasadena Village 01/28/2026
For Your Hearing Considerations: A Presentation by Dr. Philip Salomon, Audiologist 01/28/2026
Hearts & Limbs in Zambia 01/28/2026
Lost Trees of Altadena Return Home 01/28/2026
President's Message: WHY the Village Works 01/28/2026
TV: Behind the Scenes 01/28/2026
Trauma to Triumph 01/28/2026
1619 Group Reflects on Politics, Climate, and Democratic Strain 01/23/2026
How Pasadena Village Helped Me Rebuild After the Eaton Fire 01/10/2026
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May 2026
What Are "Teams"? 05/24/2026

A Christmas Goodbye

By Edward A. Rinderle · Posted 12/02/2021

By Ed Rinderle

 

It's Christmas Eve, and the hospital emergency room is abuzz with activity. Hospital staffers hurry to and fro to help those in immediate need: a woman with a knife wound suffered while preparing Christmas dinner; an older gentleman shocked by faulty wiring while putting up Christmas lights; a young man writhing on a gurney, the victim of a gunshot wound; a middle aged women black and blue from being beaten with a shoe by her drunken husband.

 

Donny sits there, amid all the misery, feeling a different kind of pain. He has just brought in Laura, his beloved wife, who moments ago, in the midst of pre-Christmas preparations, suddenly dropped to the floor unconscious.

 

Donny anxiously waits for news from the doctors who are working to save his beloved. To counteract

his fears, he focuses on the Christmas tree in the nearby foyer and lets his mind drift to memories of

Christmases past . . .

 

Christmases of his youth. Returning from church with his sister, mom, and dad. Shedding their

“Sunday clothes” for more comfortable attire. The Christmas tree shining brightly in the picture window

and the carols on the stereo provide a perfect backdrop. The family opens their Christmas packages one

by one, taking turns. Later they play charades, then dine around the kitchen table. The food is great. The

wine flows. Laughter abounds. At the day’s end they retire, and Donny's heart is filled with joy and

peace.

 

He and Laura have had their share of special Christmases, too. They have borrowed some of the

memories from their childhoods and made them part of their own Christmases, usually with family or

friends. When alone, they would snuggle by the fire in their living room, enjoying the neighborhood

Christmas lights from their bay window. Donny cherishes all of these memories, too.

 

Donny longs for those Christmases past. He savors the sights, sounds, smells and tastes of those times.

Best of all, he can feel the love.

 

He wonders, “What will this Christmas hold? Or future Christmases?”

 

The answer comes as a shock, but not an entirely unexpected one: “I am sorry, Mr. Franklin, but your

wife has suffered a burst aneurysm in her brain.” The doctor shows Donny an x-ray image revealing a

dark shadow engulfing nearly half of Laura's skull. “We can keep her alive artificially, but any kind of

recovery is unlikely.” Donny has a difficult decision to make, but he knows that even if she revives, she

will be only a pale shadow of who she was.

 

Having made the decision, Donny enters Laura's room. She is sleeping peacefully, an array of machinery

keeping her body alive. He strokes her arm; he holds her hand. She feels so warm and alive. He whisper

words of love and appreciation to her for all the memories she has given him, Christmases and otherwise.

With a gentle kiss on her warm lips, he bids her a heart-felt goodnight. As he does, he seems to feel her

lips, ever so slightly, tighten against his. And the words of an old song flood into his head:

 

“So kiss me, my sweet,

And so let us part.

And when I grow too old to dream,

That kiss will live in my heart.”

 

Oscar Hammerstein, II

 

 

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