Blog archive
April 2024
Tulsa reparations, Religion and Politics
04/09/2024
March 2024
Trumps War with Black Women
03/31/2024
Addressing The Needs of Older Adults Through Pasadena Village
03/25/2024
Coming Soon: More Resources for Older Americans, Online and in Person
03/25/2024
Community Building Locally and Nationally
03/25/2024
Preparing for the Future with Ready or Not
03/25/2024
Volunteering is at The Heart of the Village
03/25/2024
Women's Liberation: Then and Now
03/25/2024
Writing Memoirs Together
03/25/2024
Current Views on Current Events
03/20/2024
Unchained
03/18/2024
Rumr of Humor issue # 2409
03/10/2024
Blacks Portrayed by European Artists
03/03/2024
Rumor of Humor #2408
03/03/2024
February 2024
Caring for Ourselves and Each Other
02/27/2024
Doug Colliflower Honored
02/27/2024
Great Decisions Connects Us to the Worldwide Community
02/27/2024
Letter from the President
02/27/2024
Pasadena Village's Impact
02/27/2024
The Power of Touch
02/27/2024
Villages as a New Approach to Aging
02/27/2024
Addressing Gang Violence in Pasadena-Altadena
02/21/2024
Rumor of Humor Issue 2407
02/19/2024
Thank You For Caring.
02/12/2024
Rumor of Humor 2405
02/11/2024
Curve Balls
02/10/2024
Sylvan Lane
02/10/2024
Rumor of Humor 2404
02/09/2024
Larry Duplechan, Blacks in Film
02/03/2024
January 2024
Pasadena Village Joins Community Partners in Vaccination Campaign
01/29/2024
Rumor of Humor #2403
01/28/2024
Pasadena Village Joins Two Healthy Aging Resource Projects
01/25/2024
Decluttering: Do It Now
01/24/2024
Village Volunteers Contribute to the Huntington Magic
01/24/2024
Villagers Creating Community
01/24/2024
Villagers Reflect on Black History Month
01/24/2024
Walk With Ease, 2024
01/24/2024
Wide Ranging Discussion on Current Issues
01/22/2024
Wide Ranging Discussion on Current Issues
01/22/2024
Rumor of Humor # 2402
01/21/2024
Rumor of Humor # 2401
01/15/2024
Re- Entry Programs, a Personal Experience
01/08/2024
DEAR DIARY…….
By Sally CurriePosted: 07/26/2020
We are currently facing a world pandemic of epic proportions. Our lives have been upended into a new normal with kids staying at home and parents having lost their jobs or trying to work from home. Many are grieving for lost family members and friends. And, sadly, it is becoming obvious that our old ways are pretty much gone for good.
During these stressful times of adjustment to a future for which none of us was prepared, a personal journal can be of great help. I began keeping a daily log when I first started staying in and have found it enormously helpful in getting perspective and maintaining my sense of self.
It is not necessary to be grammatical or to write every day. What is important is to get your feelings down on paper while they are still strong and, if they are negative, before they have been thoughtlessly or hurtfully expressed.
Clarification results when you see your thoughts on paper. Feelings released into a diary can free energy into creative avenues of communication and ways of solving problems. If you are living with your family, a journal can be used to record your expectations of family members in the “new normal.” With increased perspective, you can separate what is from what you would like it to be. And to identify the few factors that, perhaps, cannot be changed.
Your journal can help you to set goals and establish priorities. It can identify “trigger” situations where a particular word or event sets off a predictable explosion so these situations can be avoided to encourage honest communication that can create a trusting bond between family members. If you sense that a family member is overly sensitive or stressed at a particular time, store your feelings on paper until a more appropriate time for expression. The process will give you a more objective view, a better perspective on how to express yourself effectively when the appropriate time comes. You may even decide that the issue really wasn’t important enough to warrant a confrontation.
An honest journal can lead to accepting responsibility for your feelings and saying, “I feel…” rather than “You make me feel…” The increased ability to express feelings accurately without blaming will lead to more open and assertive expression in the interplay of daily living within your family and beyond. Children can benefit from journaling as well.
The concentration required to express feelings on paper causes you to focus on a person or situation in a more complete way than is possible in the context of a busy household. An entry may begin with a description of the shortcomings of a friend or family member and, once the anger is spent, turn to expressions of appreciation for what they bring to your life.
So far, I have been focusing on family adjustment to our unprecedented situation, but for the multitude of people of all ages who live alone as I do, journaling can be a lifesaver. It is “someone to talk to” in our isolation. I like to express my feelings about what I hear in the news, what I am reading, phone conversations and emails. I even write about creative foods I have prepared. And then there are the wonderful memories of a long lifetime. I enjoy writing “memorable minis,” little stories from my life that my heirs may treasure later on. I also like to include dreams because, over time, patterns tend to emerge which help to show me what course I should follow. I also tap into the appreciation of myself that kept me going as little girl who had no playmates and realized that being alone was mostly okay.
If I have trouble sleeping, I get up and start writing. As I write, I feel as if I have “uncorked” my brain. The whirling thoughts flow onto the page through my pen and I keep writing until I feel emptied out. My muscles relax and I fall into peaceful, restorative sleep.
The entries are there, if I wish to refer to them, but I find that the very act of writing them down often brings resolution, a sense of perspective and a bolstered ability to deal with the uncertainty which is now part of our daily lives.
In kindness to yourself, write a diary!
Sally Currie, MS is a retired counselor, group leader and administrator. She is a graduate of Mount Holyoke College and did her graduate work at the University of Bridgeport and the Raxlin Institute for Family Studies. She is also a published poet and originated and hosted a TV talk show for seniors in Durango, CO. She has lived in eight states, moved 42 times and calls Pasadena her forever home. Her mother survived the flu in 1918 and died in her 101st year.